In Cuba, family is family.

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He hates it when I call her his ex.

She’s more than his ex, she’s part of his extended family, and part of mine now, too. Another ex-wife is mother to his first…


Get off your phone and help me raise our child!

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Making change — if not now, then when?

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“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”- Socrates

With a lot of…

Life Lessons

Letting go of a commitment to a broken dream

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I miss those WhatsApp communities in Cuba. I need a new community.

Days after landing in the UK, I triumphantly removed myself from many of the WhatsApp groups…


Sex and parenting..can they both be good?

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At least for us, as Cuba is moved to European ‘red’ travel lists.

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And the joy of slowing down.

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Diary excerpts from a narcissistic relationship.

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In your relationship, do you feel:

  • a lack of empathy?
  • a lack of emotional safety?
  • a lack of emotional reciprocity?
  • Needing constant admiration.
  • Expecting special treatment.
  • Exaggerating achievements and talents.
  • Reacting negatively to criticism.
  • Being preoccupied with fantasies about power, success, and beauty.
  • Taking advantage of others.
  • Inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.
  • Behaving in an arrogant manner.

What I learned from my narcissistic ex

I dated a…

Julie van Maanen

Lifelong multi-lingual traveller, writer, learner, teacher. Raising my little girl in Cuba and Europe and cannot wait to show her the world.

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