Thanks for your reply. I know he is unaware just how much energy it takes to do stuff with our child, the feeling that I am the main caregiver for her, as a default. He is great with her, but I am always the one with her first thing and last thing, and his reasoning is she demands to have me — as that is what she’s used to!

He does listen when I communicate being unhappy, and I note his making more effort, but he still has less on his plate and it drives me a little crazy. I am not as unhappy every day as when I wrote that piece, but Covid and lockdown has also driven us both a little crazy.